Some merely cringe at the word "change." Others get a bit queasy. While others get a flutter in the chest. What is your reaction to change?

Imagine the last time you made a change or there was change in your life. How did you feel before hand anticipating the change? What thoughts did you have? What did your body feel like? Keep that in mind as you read this.

 We all have a reaction to change. Whether it's a change in our personal life or changes in the work place. Big changes like moving, a break-up, or switching jobs  or small changes like modifying lifestyle habits. One thing remains constant, all change is initially uncomfortable. 

Any change, even a change for the better, is always accompanied by drawbacks and discomforts.
— Arnold Bennett, adventurer & author

but, what is it about making change in our life that is uncomfortable? Maybe it's not knowing where to start, how to go about it, or even knowing what to change.

Ask yourself, what is behind the uncomfortable feeling? The feeling you thought about at the beginning of this article. What caused it?

Often what we find is fear. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of (____). Fill in the blank. 

In order to make change in our life we must face our fears. We must become more comfortable with being uncomfortable. We must be willing to risk. High risk equals high benefit. 

So, how do we do this? Next time you have a change to make and you feel the fear creeping up. Run through these questions:

  • What's the worst thing that could happen?
  • What if you didn't make the change? How would you feel?
  • Are you ok with everything staying the way it is right now?
  • What's holding you back?
  • Are these things more important than the happiness or fulfillment you'd get by making the change?

Write your answers down. It helps to be able to reflect on them. Talk to someone about it. Sometimes just merely hearing ourselves say how much we want the change out loud is enough impetus for action. 

Each of us must confront our own fears, must come face to face with them. How we handle our fears will determine where we go with the rest of our lives. To experience adventure or to be limited by the fear of it.
— Judy Blume, author
 
Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
— Dale Carnegie, writer & lecturer